Indulge me in my cheesiness for a moment when I say that sex is like an expensive gift meaning as a couple it is best if you open it together, carefully and sensitively. First opening one side and then the other, trying to preserve the wrapping paper. In my mind, I am thinking about Charlie from the original Charlie and the Chocolate Factory opening each bar of chocolate so gently. Getting back to the point, there is something special about discovering this gift in unity. Now, some may say that without experience, this unwrapping is awkward and strange. Well, maybe that's true, but it is something that happens to each of you and there are no preconceived notions of how we like things or that your partner is doing it all wrong. You grow together. You find out what works and what doesn't. Sex then becomes based in communication and mutual pleasure rather than selfish fulfillment and comparisons.
To dissolve the myth that those who have had multiple sexual partners have better sex because of their vast experience is false. In actuality, statistics say that those who have sex with only their marriage partner have longer, more frequent and more satisfying sex. Imagine that, right? It seems crazy! Well, lets think about why that might be for a moment. The biggest reason is that in cases of only having sex with your marriage partner, the emotional tie is linked with the action. Sex is not something that has been taken lightly or for mere pleasure. It is something that is savored and held sacred.
For those of you who are thinking that they are doomed to have meaningless sexual relationships because you have had sexual relations in the past, hope is not lost!!! Lets figure out how to move on from this to have the best intimate marital relationships as possible. Think about the principles needed for a satisfying and intimate sexual relationship:
1. Regard sex as sacred
2. Regard sex selflessly
3. Be aware of the experiences and bonds that you are building together
4. Link sex with emotions rather than purely pleasure.
5. Commitment to make sex as a marital act.
As you implement these things into your lives NOW for your current marital relationship or marital relationships in the future, you will have the ability to feel the connection that comes through marital intimacy. It may take time, patience, and commitment, but it will come. Your marriage is worth the wait.
To dissolve the myth that those who have had multiple sexual partners have better sex because of their vast experience is false. In actuality, statistics say that those who have sex with only their marriage partner have longer, more frequent and more satisfying sex. Imagine that, right? It seems crazy! Well, lets think about why that might be for a moment. The biggest reason is that in cases of only having sex with your marriage partner, the emotional tie is linked with the action. Sex is not something that has been taken lightly or for mere pleasure. It is something that is savored and held sacred.
For those of you who are thinking that they are doomed to have meaningless sexual relationships because you have had sexual relations in the past, hope is not lost!!! Lets figure out how to move on from this to have the best intimate marital relationships as possible. Think about the principles needed for a satisfying and intimate sexual relationship:
1. Regard sex as sacred
2. Regard sex selflessly
3. Be aware of the experiences and bonds that you are building together
4. Link sex with emotions rather than purely pleasure.
5. Commitment to make sex as a marital act.
As you implement these things into your lives NOW for your current marital relationship or marital relationships in the future, you will have the ability to feel the connection that comes through marital intimacy. It may take time, patience, and commitment, but it will come. Your marriage is worth the wait.