1. 75% of struggling marriages are much more satisfied in 5 years.
2. 70% of divorced individuals within 2 years believe that they made a mistake.
3. 70% of men are remarried within 2 years. (Do you see the problem, considering statistic number 2)
4. Divorced mothers often are in poverty after divorce.
5. The average divorce in CA cost $125,000 upfront. Over time, that number increases into the millions.
These statistics point to the reality that in most cases, divorce is not the best means to satisfaction. California understands these statistics which is why divorce takes at least 6 months. They have found that couples wanting to divorce, often resolve their issues within that time period. Isn't that interesting? We are so willing to throw something away that can be resolved with effort.
This possible resolution is definitely something to consider when children are involved. The short term and long term effects on them are immense.
Children of divorced parents:
1. Are far less likely to attend college.
2. Are far more likely to get divorced themselves.
3. Have decreased emotional and cognitive development.
4. Often feel somewhat responsible for their parent's divorce.
5. Are forced to make decisions that even the parents couldn't make.
This is just a few of the effects of divorce on children. If it can be resolved, then see a counselor and work through the troubles that have hurt your marriage.
If you are divorced, there is hope:
Some of the best ways to help the child and parent adjust are:
1. Maintain a healthy co-parenting style with your former spouse,
2. Maintain an authoritative parenting style.
3. Don't date anyone exclusively for 6 month after the divorce. This can often lead to damaging decisions.
4. Work with yourself to improve the things that contributed to the divorce.
Those are just a few examples.
The cost of divorce is immense and should be considered thoroughly before entered in to.